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He arrives in good time, fills his card before very long, and can be asked to dance with a plain, neglected wallflower or two without resenting it.

Just because a gentleman had been introduced to a lady for the purpose of dancing did not mean that he could assume to speak to her at another time or place. If a gentleman met a lady he wished to become better acquainted with, he was to make subtle inquiries to find a mutual friend who could introduce him.

A woman would collect many cards in a an evening but the one that she preferred most, she would present her own card to him and this would mean she had accepted his offer.

If she had progressed to the stage of courtship in which she walked out with a gentleman, they always walked apart.

Not only did women keep a diary of the courtship, but both partners exchanged romantic letters.